Sometimes people ask why I’m so positive all the time,
or if I’m hiding something dark about myself or my life.
The answer is, I have to work at being positive and happy, just like everyone else. I’ve had many challenges in life, as many of us have, but rather than focusing on problems, I choose to focus on solutions.
Many people don’t know that I’m a single mom, or that my son has a serious medical condition and special needs. I could easily let this stress the crap out of me and prevent me from following my aspirations (and believe me, it has at times!), but more and more, I’m learning to make the most of this situation and maintain a positive attitude.
To be honest, some days I feel overwhelmed, inadequate, anxious, or downright depressed. But, over the years, with much inner work, learning from others, and experience, I’ve learned to snap out of these states more and more quickly to come back to a place of power.
Life isn’t always easy or fair and some days are straight out difficult… but I have learned to return to a positive and empowered mindset because that is the only place where we can make real positive change in our lives and in others’ lives as well.
As Tony Robbins says, our emotions are valuable and have much to teach us. We don’t want to indulge our emotions, but we do want to notice them and ask what they’re trying to communicate to us.
For example, sometimes when I feel overwhelmed and depressed, and take time to sit with the feeling, I realize it’s because I have been slacking on taking action on something that’s important to me. Or maybe I’ve created some unrealistic expectation of myself in my mind that I need to replace with a more realistic expectation.
I don’t believe in pretending to be happy when I’m not, or ignoring, repressing, or judging my “unpleasant” emotions. I just no longer identify with my unpleasant emotions, and see them as what they are- valuable messages for my learning and growth.
How about you:
♦Have you made a commitment to maintain a positive and empowering mindset about yourself and your life? If not, I highly recommend doing so. This decision is one of the most important decisions we can ever make. The difference between a life rich in joy and fulfillment and a life lacking these things has a LOT to do with our mindset.
♦When challenging emotions come up, do you have tools to help you express and/or move through them in a way that feels healthy and supportive to you? If not, it may be time to reframe your view of your emotions. Instead of viewing them as nuisances or something to be avoided or feared, try seeing them as helpful messengers that hold valuable information for you. Then, when you feel a challenging emotion come up, identify the specific emotion you are feeling. Take a moment to be still and ask your emotion: “Irritation/Overwhelm/Hurt/Etc., what message do you have you for me?” And be sure to follow the guidance that comes!
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